How Self-Acceptance Can Crack Open Your Life Day 2: Practicing Self-Kindness By Robert Holden

Client story: "I can't accept myself as I am," said Lilly, a 38-year-old film producer. "I don't think I'm good enough yet." "When will you be good enough?" I asked. "I'm not sure," said Lilly. "If you were willing to accept yourself, you might start feeling good enough now," I said.

Lesson: Self-acceptance teaches you that you are not who you think you are. You are able to discern between your ego and your Unconditioned Self. Early on, children start to construct a persona to help cope with the demands of being in a family, going to school and facing the world. On close inspection, you find that your persona or ego is made up of judgments about who you are, what is possible, what you deserve and what you don't. These judgments become the lens through which you see yourself and the world.

For example, Lilly had created a persona commonly described as perfectionistic. This personality type focuses on getting things right and being good. It conceives an ideal self (rather than a real self) that has high standards and stringent rules you must try to live up to. Your persona judges your efforts, and the more you judge yourself, the more you move out of alignment with the innate goodness of your Unconditioned Self.

Exercise: The more you judge yourself, the less you see who you really are. The habit of self-judgment causes self-denigration in which you belittle yourself, criticize yourself, punish yourself and treat yourself without kindness. The most powerful way to undo the effects of self-denigration is kindness and forgiveness, which restore awareness of your innate goodness.

Declare today, "I forgive myself for my judgments." Affirm yourself by saying, "I will not criticize myself today." Trust in your goodness. Resolve to treat yourself with kindness.

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Am i invisible?

"When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares."
— Henri J.M. Nouwen (The Road to Daybreak: A Spiritual Journey)

 I thank you for all that I can. I learned to appreciate it and I do not believe anything that comes in our life is wasted because of it we will learn many things.

Like today, when I feel that I was no longer important, it doesn't mean I am nothin. Sometimes things that happen is for our wisdom. I need to change. Changed to be more honest with myself and this life. I can only say I don't  need them anymore as my friend, for being faithful is useless to me. I believe life is to give and take. and therefore it would not be in vain. somehow I feel a bit offended by them. I was invisible .. I will only exist when they called my name. I have no regrets if my goal in life is to be so good....wELL saya tidak sebaik itu!.

Since my life, I learned a lot about the frustrations and I already know what is the cure. LETTING GO!!. I learned from both my parents. Forgive and forget. It is not easy but not impossible for us(ME!!! ) to do. I am not a good person .. Sometimes I think people are very annoying. But I know I cannot change other people and circumstances. I can only change myself.CHANGE MYSELF~~

ouchhh meluahkan perasaan disaat menjelangnya peperiksaan...Good luck to me ^_^

How Self-Acceptance Can Crack Open Your Life Day 1: Knowing Who You Are By Robert Holden

Lesson: The journey of self-acceptance starts when you acknowledge that you don't seem to know much about yourself. Your personality, or ego, finds it difficult to answer questions like "Who am I?" and "What do I want?" Being asked to describe yourself at a job interview or for a dating agency profile, for instance, can feel excruciating and practically impossible because you haven't really been paying attention.

True self-acceptance is motivated by the possibility of knowing what your true essence—the Unconditioned Self—is really like.

Exercise: Self-acceptance is the process of befriending the Unconditioned Self—the part of you that is more than just your name, your history, your story, your failures or your successes. You are more than just your experiences or how other people see you or the clothes you wear.

Reflect on this today: What is most authentic about you? What do you want people to really know about you? Who are you without your ego? Be still, and really listen to how you answer. Then, write down in your journal the qualities that describe your real, unconditioned self. If you're having a little trouble answering these questions for yourself, try writing a biography of your real self in 100 words.

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Don't Be a Martyr! 10 Steps to Letting Go !

Finding a balance between what you give and what you get in your relationships is essential to your happiness, health and well-being. From co-workers to friendships to family, take Dr. Robert Holden's Sacrifice Test to identify the key reasons behind the sacrifices you're making in your relationships. Once you have your results, use these 10 powerful exercises to help you let go so that you can finally say yes to a more beautiful life. 

There are two types of sacrifice: unhealthy sacrifice and healthy sacrifice. In my work, I have seen people try to use unhealthy sacrifice to save a marriage. It appeared to work at first, but love and dishonesty are not good bedfellows. I have seen lovers try to play small in a relationship so as to heal power struggles and avoid rejection. I have seen children get ill in an attempt to heal their parents' relationship. I have seen business leaders nearly kill themselves for their cause. Unhealthy sacrifice is often well-intentioned, but it never really works.

Healthy sacrifice is a different story. To be happy in a relationship, for instance, you have to be willing to sacrifice fear for love, independence for intimacy, defenses for joy and resentment for forgiveness. To be successful at work, you have to be willing to sacrifice being in control to allow for innovation and sacrifice chronic busyness for genuine success, for instance. Healthy sacrifice helps you to let go of what does not really work in order to embrace what does work.

So, how much unhealthy sacrifice are you in right now? Sometimes the habit of unhealthy sacrifice is so unconscious we are the last to recognize it in ourselves. Would you be willing to sacrifice unhealthy sacrifice so as to shift your life and experience greater joy, love and abundance? 

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UNESCO iktiraf Dublin Kota Sastera

LAMAN web Dublin UNESCO: City of Literature di alamat www.dublincityofliterature.com menyorot kelebihan ibu kota Ireland, Dublin sehingga diiktiraf sebagai Kota Sastera oleh Pertubuhan Pendidikan, Saintifik dan Kebudayaan Pertubuhan Bangsa-Bangsa Bersatu (UNESCO) pada tahun ini.

Penobatan Dublin sebagai Kota Sastera bukanlah bersifat kosmetik, sebaliknya didorong sensitiviti masyarakat di kota itu terhadap sastera, diperkukuh oleh kesedaran terhadap karya agung mereka yang turut diseimbangkan minat kepada karya kontemporari. 

“Berita mengenai sastera tersebar luas dalam media dan melalui penganjuran sesi baca buku, diskusi dan debat yang dianjurkan oleh penerbit, universiti, perpustakaan, persatuan penulis, kedai buku, pub dan kafe.

“Penghargaan terhadap penulisan dan kekayaan bentuk serta genre sastera diperlihatkan oleh penduduk Dublin sebagai suatu keperluan hidup, manakala kesedaran terhadap sastera dianggap salah satu ‘mata wang’ kepada kota raya itu yang turut menjadi kebanggaan mereka,” laman web itu dipetik berkata.

Pengarang di Dublin pula bukanlah peribadi yang asing pada pandangan masyarakatnya, sebaliknya turut menjadi tokoh yang membawa mereka ke abad ke-21 sehingga menjadi sebahagian daripada kehidupan harian mereka.

“Kota itu turut memberikan penghargaan secara rasmi kepada pengarang melalui pelbagai cara termasuk dengan menobatkan tiga sasterawan mereka sebagai Freedom of the City, iaitu George Bernard Shaw, Douglas Hyde dan paling terkini, adalah Thomas Kinsella.

“Selain itu, Dublin turut memberikan Anugerah Lord Mayor yang pada 2009 dianugerahkan kepada Sebastian Barry, manakala Hadiah Man Booker Antarabangsa pula dianjurkan di kota terbabit buat pertama kalinya pada tahun lalu sebagai pengiktirafan terhadap kewibawaan sasteranya,” laman web itu dipetik berkata.
Tidak kurang daripada empat sasterawan yang mempunyai kaitan dengan Dublin dianugerahkan Hadiah Nobel untuk Kesusasteraan, iaitu George Bernard Shaw, WB Yeats, Samuel Beckett dan Seamus Heaney, manakala pengarang kota terbabit yang mencapai pengiktirafan antarabangsa termasuklah Jonathan Swift, Cardinal Newman, Oscar Wilde, Sean O’Casey, Denis Johnston, Flann O’Brien, Brendan Behan dan Jennifer Johnston.

“Dalam tempoh yang terdekat ini, pengarang yang menetap di Dublinterus menerima pengiktirafan dalam prosa, drama dan puisi dengan Hadiah Man Booker diberi kepada Iris Murdoch, Roddy Doyle, John Banville dan Anne Enright, manakala pada 2009 pula, Barry mendapat Anugerah Tahunan Buku Costa dan Hadiah Fiksyen Sempena Mengenang Tait Black.

“Pada tahun lalu juga, Colum McCann memenangi Anugerah Buku Kebangsaan Amerika Syarikat (AS) lewat novelnya, Let The Great World Spin sehingga tidak hairanlah novelis, Enright, menganggap orang pintar di kota lain keluar dari rumah untuk membina kekayaan, tetapi orang bijak di Dublin kembali ke rumah untuk menulis buku,” laman web itu dipetik berkata.

Dublin turut melahirkan antara hadiah sastera paling berprestij, iaitu Anugerah Sastera IMPAC Dublin yang turut dimenangi pengarang kota itu, Colm Toibin pada 2006, selain ramai daripada mereka meraih populariti antarabangsa melalui penterjemahan seperti Dermot Bolger, Frank McGuinness, Conor McPherson, Marina Carr dan Martin McDonagh dalam bidang teater serta Harry Clifton yang dianggap Profesor Puisi Ireland, Eavan Boland, Paula Meehan, Peter Sirr, Pat Boran, Michael O’Loughlin dan Paul Durcan (puisi).

“Dalam genre fiksyen popular pula mereka ialah novelis Maeve Binchy, John Connolly, Marian Keyes, Cathy Kelly, Patricia Scanlan dan Cecilia Ahern, manakala fiksyen sastera melahirkan pengarang yang sangat berjaya seperti Barry, McCann, Enright, Roddy Doyle, Joseph O’Connor, Hugo Hamilton, John Banville dan Claire Kilroy.

“Genre sastera kanak-kanak turut tidak terkecuali dengan pengarang dan pelukis ilustrasi yang mencapai reputasi antarabangsa seperti Siobhan Parkinson yang baru dilantik sebagai Sasterawan Sastera Kanak-kanak Pertama pada tahun ini, Derek Landy, Conor Kostick, Marita Conlon-McKenna dan PJ Lynch, selain bidang bukan cereka seperti pengarang dan pengkritik sastera, Declan Kiberd; pengarang sejarah seni, Anne Crookshank dan sejarawan, Peter Harbison,” laman web itu dipetik berkata.

Pengiktirafan Kota Sastera oleh UNESCO itu berdasarkan ciri dan perwatakan kota yang memperlihatkan kualiti, kuantiti dan kepelbagaian dalam inisiatif editorial, penerbit, program pendidikan yang menumpukan sastera tempatan dan luar negara bermula dari sekolah rendah sehingga universiti, selain turut melihat persekitaran bandar yang turut disumbangkan oleh sastera, drama dan baca puisi.

Ia turut berdasarkan pengalaman dalam penganjuran acara dan festival sastera yang bertujuan mempromosi sastera tempatan dan luar negara, selain turut menyorot fungsi perpustakaan, kedai buku dan pusat kebudayaan milik kerajaan atau swasta dalam usaha memulihara, mempromosi dan menyebarkan sastera.

Pengiktirafan Kota Sastera yang sebelum ini turut diberikan kepada Edinburgh, United Kingdom (UK); Iowa City, AS dan Melbourne, Australia itu, tidak meminggirkan sumbangan aktif sektor penerbitan untuk penterjemahan karya sastera daripada bahasa kebangsaan atau karya asing, selain pembabitan cergas oleh media termasuk media baru dalam mempromosi dan memperkukuhkan pasaran produk sastera.

Sumber: Berita Harian ( sastera )

Art For Nature Festival 2010

Jadi inilah kemuncaknya subjek bagi Keusahawanan Seni. Ini saatnya mempraktikkan segala pengetahuan yang telah diperolehi sepanjang hampir enam bulan kuliah. Untuk booth penulisan terdapat dua booth iaitu kumpulan dari Abang Nasir dan juga kumpulan dari aku sendiri. Dan hasil idea kak sara maka lahirlah

THE PARAGON CABIN

Apa yang ada di booth kami? Macam-macam ada ! Antaranya

• Baju bundle koleksi daripada Yang Dipertua Pelajar Roydy Anuar atau nama glamour Roydy Rokydy berserta Marrulhuda Mawardi.
• Buku-buku lama koleksi penyelia Latihan Ilmiah aku merangkap pensyarah iaitu Tn Hj Rahim Abdullah. Buku-buku lama tersebut dijual dengan kadar yang terendah. Ada juga buku yang tak diusik ( masih di dalam balutan plastik ) langsung oleh tuannya.
• Buku lagi : Kami juga mempunyai karya agung sasterwan negara ke-10, Dato Dr Anwar Ridhwan Naratif Ogonshoto .
• Buku-buku terbaik dengan harga terbaik dari Alaf 21 ,  Casa Delima dan juga novel karya MF Kencana.
• Terdapat juga perfume original dengan harga runtuh! Hahaha!
• Dan akhir sekali, kami juga menjual makanan serta minuman pada hari kejadian.

 Semoga fesival ini ( sepatutnya karnival kerana festival merujuk kepada perayaan ) ini memberi kami secebis pegalaman yang tak terlupakan....~ ^_^

Maher Zain Is Allah Satisfied ?"Awaken" with lyrics